The Reality Of Being Real..

Real people are destined to be hated and unappreciated by fools. There are people that will never appreciate anything you do not say regardless of your efforts. They are out to make your life as miserable as they can. They are never happy and can’t stand to see you happy. I call them “joy killers”. 
Today, i heard someone say something to a friend over the phone, “It’s not about who is real to your face, it’s about who stays real behind your back” and it hit me, we can never know the people who stay real to us at our back cos most of the time they are pretending to be real. I feel sad when i see people apologizing for doing what they love and have passion for, it’s equivalent to apologizing for being who they are. If you can’t be real to yourself, don’t expect people to be real to you. Some people are good at seeing through others, they can decipher the real ones from the fake ones. Always make sure your actions matches your word at all times.

Life’s not about the people who act true to your face. It’s about the people who remain true behind your back. The truth is even a fake person will make a mistake and act like it never happened, a REAL person will make a mistake, admit it and apologize regardless of the outcome! The question is how real are we? You can’t give what you don’t have neither can you loose what you never had. Most of us spend our life time pleasing others, pretending to be happy when we are not, smile when we ought to cry, run when we should walk,ect. We are so scared of being real, of being who we want to be because our intends always gets misjudged and misinterpreted. Should we allow that to define us? No. We need to forget what we’ve heard, recognize what we see..Stand up to it or embrace it.

I don’t see any reason why we should fake ourselves just to look perfect because at the end of the day, perfection is never real and Reality is never Perfect!. I choose to be me, not who others choose to see. Speak the truth, even if your voice ends up skaking. Let your heart, life and around shine around your friends including before the haters, even if it seems like just a flicker sometimes. “Mathew 5:6”. We need to stop looking for the society to give us permission to be ourselves. #Be real…Be you.
Remember a spark can ignite a very big bonfire. Keep it 100 at all times  I’m talking faith, trust, and loyalty. 


38 thoughts on “The Reality Of Being Real..

    1. Yes Ma’am, that’s the aim of it. To remind us to be real and to remember that at the end of the day what really matters is who we are and how happy we are with our identity. Thank you Ma’am for dropping by and commenting.

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  1. true and inspiring post. There is no perfect person in this world. On social media we see one “happy” picture to the next…it doesn’t show the whole picture. There will always be people who suck the energy out of you. It’s important to be yourself and part of that responsibility is to remove energy suckers from your life. People only have as much control over you if you let them. It took me years to embrace this and apply it to life!

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    1. It took me years to really embrace that as well much less applying it to my life. I struggled with listening to what people said and spend little time being me. To the Glory of God am in a better place now and I would only be me than be anyone else. Thank you so much for dropping by and sharing with us. It means a lot and i truly appreciate it.

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  2. Nice comments and when I read this article I thought on “onion citizens”, unfortunately lots of people are plies as onions or a facade and when I meet real citizens I found a treasure, lovely thing meanwhile I must be digging again ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Keep digging my dear friend. To find real treasure you have to be at the right place and have the right tools and skills. Keepโ€‹ being real my dear friend. Thank you for sharing with us all.


  3. It is True Whitney, worldly perfection is impossible we can never measure up it just keeps changing, like what it offers as love, it’s superficial and saccharine sweet and there is no real commitment, it’s more about self, this is why we are to aim to be Perfected in God’s Love as He tells us to do and which the Scriptures below confirm.

    But yes we all have weaknesses and shortcomings as you shared Whitney, I’m sure I have more than most so I would not feel comfortable about running someone else down for theirs but I do warn those who Sin and correct error as God tells us to do, it’s unloving not to.

    Matthew 5:48 Be ye therefore Perfect, even as your Father which is in Heaven is Perfect.

    Hebrews 6:1 Therefore leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ, let us go on unto Perfection not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God,

    2 Corinthians 7: 1 Having therefore these promises dearly beloved let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit Perfecting Holiness in the fear of God.

    2 Timothy 3:16-17 All scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be Perfect thoroughly furnished unto all good works.

    1John 4:17-19 Herein is our Love made Perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as He is so are we in this world. There is no fear in Love but Perfect Love casteth out fear because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made Perfect in Love. We Love Him because He first Loved us.

    2 Corinthians 13:11 Finally, brethren, farewell. Be Perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in Peace; and the God of Love and Peace shall be with you.

    Christian Love Always – Anne.

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  4. such a good post. โ€œjoy killersโ€ are everywhere and must be handled with care, as you pointed out. it is amazingly sad how people like that can affect so many areas of your life, including financially!


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