Let them go if they want to!
Never force anyone to stay in your life. Not then, not now, not ever. Relationships are built on many factors and one of them is trust. Out of the many things we want and desire in a relationship trust is vital. It goes beyond words, it’s action girded. Trust is having the capability to place confidence in another person and believe they won’t let you down and this is often narrowed down to telling them your secrets, fears, expectations and be confident they will keep them safe. Trust is earned not given, if the person you are in a relationship with doesn’t reciprocate the feelings and opts to leave, let them go. It simply means they’ve lost confidence in you, and probably don’t trust you anymore. If you truly want them back and you’ve done all you could yet they insist on leaving, then let them leave. No one should be forced to stay in anyone’s life. It’s a matter of choice. They have to want you, need you, desire you, it shouldn’t be the other way round.
When people don’t trust you, lying to you becomes essential. Oftentimes they lie to you to protect you from knowing how they truly feel about you with the hope you get to see it, but other times, they lie to you because they don’t care how you feel. When this happens, they start hiding things from you, playing detectives and undercover with you and around you, cheating ect.
No one deserves to live around such energy. If they want to leave, let them leave. It’s probably their loss and not yours in the long run. It will hurt, but you will definitely be fine. Leaving you won’t hurt as much as making them stay when they will never be present with you.
Be thankful for the ones that chose to stay with you through it all. They saw what others couldn’t see. Never get comfortable with anything forced be it communication, relationships, marriage, trust, and love. If it doesn’t connect or click, it never will. Letting them go may not feel right but let’s
understand that everything leaves for a reason, and leaves with a lesson.
Reblogged this on Lincoln Life Blog.
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Smiles… Thank you Lincoln, your kind gesture is highly appreciated and it’s very thoughtful of you to share.
Merry Christmas.
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https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsThis great Whitney. Out of reading, got something. And Merry Christmas
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I’m glad you connected to the post. Glad you dropped by. Enjoy the season and all the good things it brings your way.
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Thanks and you too
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Especially as we are about to enter into a new year, we certainly need to let go certain people who wants to leave.
We must also leave certain people even when they don’t want to leave us. Not abandoning them but giving them a breathing space. There are people that if you don’t leave them you won’t make a headway. Not that they are bad but they somehow hinder our progress.
It was when Abraham separated from Lot that God began to reveal things to him.
Good reminder. Great mind.
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You couldn’t have said it any better chilavert. We need to let go of some people even if they don’t want to leave, not because they are dangerous but because we need them to see the light and how much they can accomplish for themselves when they thrive.
I love the example you gave about Abraham, that’s a good one.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your candid thoughts with us.
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You’re welcome my dear.
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😊😊😊
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This is a very tough decision but I think it’s the best solution for ungrateful actions. Thanks again Whitney for making my day 😊
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Awww, I didn’t know I did that (make your day), now I know, I’m very glad I did😊😊.
It’s never easy to make any decision whatsoever but we’ve got to learn walk away from things that aren’t encouraging us to excel.
I’m really glad you dropped by and enjoyed reading the post.
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https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsGreat post. And you are so right. It’s always better to be alone than with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. And, truth be told, we never possess someone, we never truly “have them.” We should practice the art of letting go, of setting people free, of setting ourselves free in the process.
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Thank you Cristian for your wonderful contributions. It’s better 5i to be alone than with someone who does not want to be with us.
One of the greatest feelings in the world is to love and be loved. It’s very thoughtful of you to drop by and share with us. Merry Christmas.
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so true, so very true
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Thanks buddy. It’s very thoughtful of you to drop by and comment.
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That’s so true. I found that out when my ex broke up with me and while he was breaking up with me told me he cheated on me. I thought I could be his friend, but then God showed me his true colors and I realized I had to let him go. It’s like your title of the post says don’t make them stay. I have found my friends who have stayed with me through it all and they will continue to stay. I’m so grateful that one of those people is you miss Whitney. I just wouldn’t be here without you. I’m so glad God put us together. You are just wonderful and a true gem. I love you and thank you for this beautiful piece. I hope you had a beautiful Christmas.
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It’s never easy to forget the pains or ordeals we go through in our relationships, but it is possible and it begins when we learn to let go and forgive those who have wronged us.
You are a strong-willed woman with a remarkable personality, true and humble and I’m certain that you will find the man who deserves you and knows your worth soon.
Yes, our meeting is and will always be a blessing. There are no accidents with God. I’m grateful and blessed to have met you and I love you too and yes, I i had a beautiful Christmas, the best Christmas ever.
Hope you had a great time too? Thank you very much for your kind words and for dropping by and sharing with us.
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Yep I agree so true. Thank you I appreciate that. No ma’am there’s not and I’m so glad. I did have a great time. You’re so welcome.
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I’m glad you had a good time. Keep smiling my dear.
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Thank you I appreciate that. I’ll do my best. It’s hard sometimes.
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Within you, is the power to do anything my dear. You will be fine. You are most welcome
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Thanks Whitney. I appreciate it.
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You are most welcome my Kathleen.
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i love this post. am going to reblog this. i love the ending. ‘everything leaves for a reason, and leaves with a lesson’ will always keep that to heart.
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Thank you very much Hephzybee. I am happy to hear that you connected with the post. We always have a choice. We can either throw in the towel or we can choose to use it to wipe the sweat off our face but we are never allowed to remain dirty and sweaty.
Happy Holidays to you and yours.
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