Let them go if they want to!
Never force anyone to stay in your life. Not then, not now, not ever. Relationships are built on many factors and one of them is trust. Out of the many things we want and desire in a relationship trust is vital. It goes beyond words, it’s action girded. Trust is having the capability to place confidence in another person and believe they won’t let you down and this is often narrowed down to telling them your secrets, fears, expectations and be confident they will keep them safe. Trust is earned not given, if the person you are in a relationship with doesn’t reciprocate the feelings and opts to leave, let them go. It simply means they’ve lost confidence in you, and probably don’t trust you anymore. If you truly want them back and you’ve done all you could yet they insist on leaving, then let them leave. No one should be forced to stay in anyone’s life. It’s a matter of choice. They have to want you, need you, desire you, it shouldn’t be the other way round.
When people don’t trust you, lying to you becomes essential. Oftentimes they lie to you to protect you from knowing how they truly feel about you with the hope you get to see it, but other times, they lie to you because they don’t care how you feel. When this happens, they start hiding things from you, playing detectives and undercover with you and around you, cheating ect.
No one deserves to live around such energy. If they want to leave, let them leave. It’s probably their loss and not yours in the long run. It will hurt, but you will definitely be fine. Leaving you won’t hurt as much as making them stay when they will never be present with you.
Be thankful for the ones that chose to stay with you through it all. They saw what others couldn’t see. Never get comfortable with anything forced be it communication, relationships, marriage, trust, and love. If it doesn’t connect or click, it never will. Letting them go may not feel right but let’s
understand that everything leaves for a reason, and leaves with a lesson.