Just Thoughts… #5

Why are people driven by the need for approval? Why do they allow the expectations of parents, spouses, children, teachers or friends to control their lives? Why are many adults still trying to earn the approval of unpleasable parents?

Others are comfortably driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think. Unfortunately, those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. I know a few keys to success, but one key to failure is to try to please everyone.

19 thoughts on “Just Thoughts… #5

  1. Nice, I think we as citizens and insecure or feeble moment we need the force of different people in order to approve our thoughts, the incredible thing if he’s running down the hill, culprits the other in order to consent.
    I’ve suffered this rare covenant and a thing is sure human living in a maze called life or …


    1. That’s right David, insecurities is a major problem and reason why we constantly seek peoples approval. We’ve got to have self confidence in ourselves.
      Thanks my dear David. Your response is very insightful.


  2. As much as I would love to shed this approval seeking mindset…I just cannot…somehow it keeps coming back …sometimes even stealthily so….no matter how far I run away from it….it just menacingly catches up


  3. The approval need is really a hard thing to shake. I think women especially crave affirmation and approval…..I have no idea why. The trick is to make sure it doesn’t rule our lives.


    1. Most definitely Mrs Faye. We shouldn’t allow it rule our lives. We’ve got to be who we choose to be, not who others choose to see.
      I’m so glad you dropped by and shared with us Ma’am. 💞


  4. I think we fall prey to this evil disease based on how we are socialized as kids. Influences around us such as adult carers/ peers, may consciously or subconsciously embed it in our heads that there’s a universal standard we exist and adhere to and “they” are always watching, and so boom, this becomes our self created fear of what “they” will say, think or feel. whoever “they” are. It creates a lot of insecurities and lack of confidence in aspects of our own life journeys eventually though.


  5. a lot of it stems from childhood. A lot of us are raised to believe “they” are always watching. Whoever “they” are. Its from this notion that a lot of adults are deeply affected by gossip, or external opinions regarding their lives. Its from a deep seated insecurity that probably has festered from childhood, that someone is always going to not approve. .


    1. You made a very good point and reminded me of when I was little my dad would always say “imaghi na iwu Ada? Ndi nmadu na ele gi” which means “don’t you know you are the first daughter? Your life is being watched by many” (that was igbo language).
      That made me always conscious of everything and anywhere I went. I would always seek approval from the so called people watching before I did anything.
      It took a while to change that orientation and mindset.
      It’s a terrible idea but that doesn’t mean we can’t change it if we want to. Anything is possible if we just believe.
      Thank you OhLyve. It’s very thoughtful of you to drop by and share your lovely views with us. Have a great day.

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