About 80-90% of child Sexual Abused victims are abused by someone they know or trust, and most times this circle of trust were created by their parents. This is because they do not pay adequate attention to who they leave their wards or kids with when they are away.
There are cases of older children molesting younger ones. This is because the older children were not noticed of being abused by their guardian or parents when they were younger. So, they grew up believing its a normal thing to do same to another. Their minds and thoughts are exposed to dirty things at a very tender age, it becomes all they think and because their body and brain has grown too fast, their libido also becomes higher than normal. So, they practice on the children that are younger than they are.
It is disheartening when we hear cases of children between the ages of 10-12 years already having babies. Perhaps it is because their bodies has overgrown unlike the normal process. It no longer becomes news when these victims get infected with Fistula( According to fistulafoundation.org: An obstetric fistula is a hole between the vagina and rectum or bladder that is caused by prolonged obstructed labor, leaving a woman incontinent of urine or feces or both.
For women with obstructed labor, labor that goes unattended, the labor can last up to six or seven days. The labor produces contractions that push the baby’s head against the mother’s pelvic bone. The soft tissues between the baby’s head and the pelvic bone are compressed and do not receive adequate blood flow. The lack of blood flow causes this delicate tissue to die, and where it dies holes are created between the laboring mother’s bladder and vagina and/or between the rectum and vagina. This is what produces incontinence in a fistula patient). Notwithstanding, we cannot fold our hands and watch the life’s of our children get destroyed.
In a feat to curb this obnoxious process, these are my recommendations ;
. Sensitize the children on their body parts and the dangers of child abuse
. Enlist the dangers of anyone who is not in their circle of love and trust
. Parents should create a bond of trust between themselves and their kids, for escalation.
Written by Bamgboye Ayomikun Kaizen.