“Having a role model can be awesome but there are plus and minus we need to know” .
We all need good role models. I have a few that I love to learn from every now and then, but when you devote your life to being like somebody else, you risk becoming something God doesn’t want you to be. Always remember, your ‘heroes’ wrestle with blind spots and character flaws too.
Apostle Paul says, ‘I am the least of the apostles and do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God’ (1 Corinthians 15:9). The same thing with Peter: when Cornelius sent for him, we’re told that as he ‘entered the house, Cornelius met him and fell at his feet in reverence. But Peter made him get up. “Stand up,” he said, “I am only a man myself”‘ (Acts 10:25-26) . If you’re successful in life, you’ll adopt that same attitude.
The danger in hero worship comes from forfeiting your individuality and missing the path God has mapped out for you personally. Some of the lessons God teaches us may be similar, but another person’s purpose, gifting, journey, and time-frame will be different from yours. Learn from them, emulate their success, don’t be so fast to celebrate their glory without first hearing their story, don’t repeat their mistakes for they made them so you could learn from it. Repeating them means failing to learn from the blessings of their experiences and know when to draw the limits.
For example, a friend starts a business and makes money, but when you quit your job and follow in his footsteps you go broke. Or a co-worker wears something that looks great on her, but on you the same outfit looks like a sack tied in the middle. God is ‘jealous’ concerning you (see Deuteronomy 4:24). Why? Because he wants to protect you from anything that would rob you of your uniqueness, or threaten your relationship with him.
“Our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves.”