Just Thoughts On Flattery.. #23

He who knows how to flatter also knows how to slander- Napoleon Bonaparte”

The English word flatterer comes from a French term that means ‘to pat, smooth, or caress’. So a flatterer is someone who will pat you on the back with one hand, and in some cases, knife you in the back with the other. Flattery is something a person will say to your face but will not say behind your back. It’s insincere praise from an insincere motive. And the Bible warns us to beware of it: ‘Those who give false praise to their neighbours are setting a trap for them’ (Proverbs 29:5 NCV).

Flatterers will do you no good. In fact, Solomon says that in the long run you’re better off with a person who will criticise you than a person who will flatter you. ‘He who rebukes a man will find more favour afterward than he who flatters with the tongue’ (Proverbs 28:23 NKJV).

When it comes to flattery you should always keep these two things in mind:
1. Give praise sparingly but sincerely, with nothing but the best in mind for the other person.
2. Receive praise wisely, without taking yourself or the person giving the praise too seriously. Always remember that flattery was the weapon that Satan used to bring Adam and Eve down in the Garden of Eden: ‘You will be like God’ (Genesis 3:5 NKJV). That’s why Solomon writes, ‘The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but man is tested by the praise he receives’ (Proverbs 27:21 NIV).

So, what do I do when someone praises me? Well, the question you should always ask yourself when someone praises you is this: does this make me more big-headed or more big-hearted?


16 thoughts on “Just Thoughts On Flattery.. #23

    1. Believe me the Blessing isn’t one sided. I’m truly blessed being a part of your lives. You all are my source of inspiration.

      My Fans mean everything to me. I think I’m more blessed in all humility 😊. Thank you very much for your kind words. Have a blessed day.


  1. Flattering is hypocrisy. It’s like acting like a Pharisee. They act like the Jews who praised Jesus saying, “King of the Jews” and later shouted, “Crucify Him”.
    An act of flattery is an act of insincerity.

    This message came at the right time. Bless you, Ma.

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    1. Flattery is often deceptive. Especially when it’s used by someone who is completely insincere and ingenuine.

      I’m glad it came at the right time. Blessings to you and yours. Thank you very much for reading through my dear. Have a great day 💕


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