Hello everyone and how are you all doing? Trust your weekend was a happy one? Today, I had the privilege of listening to my friend talk to me about his father and how much he had hurt him and made his life unbearable. I didn’t know he felt this way about his father because he always had a positive attitude toward life. He decided to shut down that part of his life and it was eating him up inside. I felt blessed he shared his pain with me and more blessed because I had the chance of introducing him to ” The Good Father”.
Now, many of us were raised by fathers that were loving, caring, guided us, did their best and made sure that we had everything that we needed. Regardless, of how good our fathers were or are, people are just not perfect. They make mistakes! There are times they could let us down, perhaps not give us what we needed. Some fathers mean well but they don’t know how to show their affections, they probably never told you they loved you or that they are proud of you. It’s possible they corrected you when you did something wrong, made sure that you stayed on the right path and yet ended up making your life miserable even without knowing. The problem is their father most likely did the same thing to them. They never heard I love you, they never saw it nor felt it either. You just can’t give away what you don’t have.
Most fathers can be very loving, doting on their children but have a bad temper and they tend to destroy everything around them when they get angry. They become abusive, violent, vulgar and sometimes suicidal. Nothing can be scarier for a child than growing up in a dysfunctional home with a crazy father.
Most fathers never planned on messing up their children, they didn’t set out to make it more difficult and pass down their dysfunction, but sadly life throws a pebble on a calm lake and therefore allows their decisions to affect everything around them. You can’t help it but you’ve been impacted by the people that raised you.
The good news is, your heavenly father has taken all this into account. He knew who your parents would be, he knew what you would get, he knew what wouldn’t be fair. He’s already designed a plan with this in mind to get you to your destiny. You may have been raised around dysfunctions, addictions, abuse, poverty but that doesn’t have to stop you. That’s where you come from, that’s not who you are.
You’re a child of the most high God. Your earthly father may have fallen short, disappointed you, didn’t give you what you needed, but, your heavenly father, “the good father” would never let you down. He’s a friend that sticks closer than a brother. Maybe your earthly father never gave you his approval, the good father is saying, ” I’m proud of you”, ” I love you”, ” you’re my son”, ” you’re my daughter”. He’s saying, “it’s alright, you can trust me”.
People may have tried to push you down, made you feel less than better but the good father is saying, “you’re a masterpiece”, ” you’re a prized possession”, “you’ve been fearfully and wonderfully made”. Now, don’t stay focused on what your earthly father did or didn’t do, gave you or didn’t give you. Don’t be bitter because you are at a disadvantage or get angry because they weren’t there for you. Stop and start going to the good father for a better life.
Yes, it’s painful to be rejected by anyone, especially by your own father. When you’ve been raised in a dysfunctional environment, it’s easy to become negative and think, ” God, why was I born into this family? Why wasn’t my father around? Why was there so much arguing, addictions and abuse? Why didn’t this people give me what I needed? The truth is situations may not have been fair, your parents may have been cruel but none of that has or can never stop Gods plan for your life.
When he laid out the path for your life, he took into consideration the pains, bad breaks, rejections, who wasn’t there for you and yet, he’s still writing out the remaining pages of your life. Nothing has stopped him from loving you just the way you are. Don’t allow yourself to be bitter, give up on your dreams and settle for mediocrity.
I know you may say, ” Whitney, my dad wasn’t around like yours was, he didn’t treat me right, he abused my mom and siblings at will” etc. If you start going to the good father, if he would get your approval and confirm your faith and love for him, then regardless of what your earthly father may have done, the good father would make it up to you. He would pay you back for the injustice and he would not only help you overcome but he will show you favour that will last you for the rest of your life.
Jesus said, ” it is the Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom”. The good father takes good pleasure in making your wrongs right. He takes good pleasure in giving you what people took from you or didn’t give you. He’s saying, ” get ready, I’m about to make it up to you. I’m going to give you more opportunity, more influence, more resources, more fulfilment like it didn’t ever happen.
But first, you have to let go, forgive the wrongs done to you, forgive your earthly father and forgive yourself.
Blessings and Love
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