I have a strong personality, and my man is easier going😎. He has no problem with my doing as I please( well, most of the time). He allows me to watch my favourite cartoons or soaps when he’s supposed to watch his games. He’s also agreeable to most of the social plans I make even though he often wonders why women seem to have so many social gatherings 😀. He doesn’t always complain about or resists things I want to do or need.
But as pleasant and laid-back as he is, he also has limits, and he refuses to let me or anyone else go so far. And I respect him for that. In many relationships, one of the two people whether friends, work associates, marriage partners, will have a stronger personality than the other. Some people naturally take the “lead roles” and others really thrive as followers. I am a leader, and I will lead no matter where I go or what I do.
I don’t take charge of situations on purpose, leading is just who I am and being a strong leader is part of my personality. But remember: it’s one thing to be a leader, its another thing altogether to be a controller or a manipulator. Most of us with strong leader type personalities have to find this out one way or the other. I have learned there’s a big difference between control and true godly leadership.
If you have a leader or a person with a strong personality or will in your life, I want you to know something that may surprise you: Most strong people do not respect those who allow them to be controlling. These people would really respect you for creating some limits you will not allow them to cross, just as I respect my man for not allowing my strong personality to control him.
Even though you may be a milder, more peace-loving, easier going personality, you must build some borders in your life. If you don’t, you will one day look back over your life and feel people used you, abuse you, walked all over you, and generally treated you without respect. You may end up bitter and resentful, and that will not be anyone’s fault but yours.
I want you to know that no one else will build the borders you need. You are responsible for standing up for yourself. If you are tired of feeling controlled, begin to set some limits. If you have allowed people to have their way all the time, they may find it difficult when you first establish borders, but you must persist and do so for their sake, as well as for your sake.
Love you all. Have a great day.
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