The first question a woman should ask a man when he asks her to follow him si, “Where are you going in life?”, ” What are your visions?”. If he can’t answer any of these questions, she should tell him to find a map and when he does find a map, he should come looking for her. A woman is too precious to waste sitting in a home being frustrated for twenty years or fifty years, depending on how long you plan on staying with him.
It’s difficult enough to have nothing to adapt to, but it’s even worse if you have to adapt to something that isn’t right for you. When you find that man that’s right for you before you begin to adapt ask questions, survey his environment, visualise his dreams and visions and see if you can fit into the picture and grow alongside with him. Don’t just settle in a hurry!
Every woman is wired to submit but she should truly submit only when she recognises the man’s moral authority over her. Yes, you heard that right! Submit only to his moral authority! I won’t advise any woman to submit to an abusive and violent man simply because he’s her husband and watch her go to her early grave. No one deserves to live in an abusive environment all their lives much less a woman.
Some men don’t deserve to be adapted to. They are not worthy of it. They’re not giving the adapter that which is comfortable to adapt to. When this is the case, you will find women adapting in bitterness, in hatred, in deceit, or in malice. The home she lives in becomes, “ a home of pain”. They’ve been forced to adapt to something against their wills and they hate you (the man) for it.
Whatever the male gives out, the female will generally adapt to. Eventually, she may become it. She was born to adapt, she was designed to adapt, and so she becomes whatever she feeds on. I have observed women whose husbands or boyfriends are prone to cursing and swearing. These women, likewise, eventually develop the habit of swearing. Children also have their roots in the soil. They suck up whatever is coming from their source, and they end up producing the same kind of fruit as their source.
In this way, you end up with a family that looks just like the father.
To be continued…Please stay tuned
Blessings and Love
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