Do Men Have Emotions?


Hello everyone! How are you doing? Over the weekend, I got lots of questions from my female fans. They wanted to know if men really do have emotions. When I asked them why they feel men don’t have, their responses were “My husband never apologises”, ” my boyfriend has never said I love you to me”, “I have never seen my husband cry or show he’s hurt, he bottles up his emotions”. I tried giving the best answer I could base on my exposure and experience.

Now, contrary to what many women believe, men do have emotions. They just don’t always express them. Either because it is more difficult for them to or because their thinking rather than their emotions are at the forefront of what they are engaged in.

It all goes back to purpose. How? You ask! God designed the man with the capacity to focus on the cold hard facts of a situation. Why? Because he was created first, and in that position was designed to lead. Regardless of how messed, our world is now and you see most men behind while the women lead. That wasn’t the original plan of God for man.

A leader can’t afford to base his decisions on emotions, especially in a crisis or when he needs to make judgement calls. Remember, we are talking about general tendencies. This doesn’t mean that a woman can’t lead.

However, when she does, she often has to balance her emotions with the facts in order to make the best decisions. Moreover, her instincts can serve her well in this capacity.

Over time, I have observed that the way a man acts when he receives information from a woman can make her angry. Let’s assume she says, ” The rent is due, and we are behind in our payments”. He says, “Don’t worry about it. I’ll take care of it”. She goes further and says, ” But you don’t understand what I said. We don’t have any money, and they’re coming to get us evicted!”.

He replies, “I know. I said I’ll take care of it”. The woman goes on to call her parents, cousins, and aunt to tell them about her situation, but the man seems almost nonchalant about it. The woman could interpret his response to mean he doesn’t care.

Yet all this time, he’s been thinking about what he’s going to do. She is feeling; he is thinking. He’s formulating all kinds of schemes in his head about how he can get the money.

Since a female is an emotional feeler, she is generally led or motivated by her emotions, even though she also thinks. Yes, she does! Yet a male is led or motivated by his thinking because of his leadership and provider responsibilities.

There are times when a woman isn’t feeling what a man is thinking, and a man is not thinking what a woman is feeling. When this happens, lack of communication between them compounds their frustration with one another.

Men, you’ve got to learn to tell women what you’re thinking and feeling. Find a way to communicate your emotions to them. Learn to express your feelings. Women, do not consider his unemotional response as being either irresponsible or inconsiderate.

Lovely week ahead to everyone!

Blessing and Love.

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13 thoughts on “Do Men Have Emotions?

  1. I think like you say, men are less in touch with their emotional side, and are actually too proud to admit we get emotional because we feel we have to be all “macho” and have it all together. I’m not saying we should be like this, just that it’s how we tend to be

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    1. I get the drift, Robert. My brothers and my man would always say “I’m the man, why should I show my weak side. I’ve got to be in charge”, always showing their macho stance whenever they can.😖

      And yes, it all goes back to purpose. God designed the man with the capacity to focus on the cold hard facts.

      Always a delight to read your response, Robert. Thank you.

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      1. To be honest, the great men of the Bible: Christ included, weren’t afraid to show their emotional sides, we shouldn’t be either! Thanks Whitney for the article. You might just inspire me to write an article about Bible men and their emotions!

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  2. it is really based on society…men are not to be emotional.which is all BS!
    good write
    and showing emotion is not a sign of weakness but a sign of maturity and confidence.

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    1. I completely agree with you. Showing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. It takes courage, strength, maturity and confidence to exhibit that.

      Thank you, buddy, for sharing. It’s always a delight to have you here.

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  3. interesting article. a typical man has emotions that are not as subtle as that of a typical female: men are not as emotional as women. compare the emotional responses & body languages of men and women, respectively, around scenes involving love or tragedy, etc., and you would see. when i say typical it’s because in a few occasions you can see some men with typical female emotions, and vice versa

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