Today I learned the other side of ego and its need to be superior in all things and at all things. I was discussing with a colleague and he was trying to tell me something that I wasn’t aware of. I had no issue with the information he was passing across, but I had an issue with how he was delivering the message.
He was being egoistic and I tried to make him see that but he wouldn’t budge. He kept going on and on, and it was obvious that my response was irrelevant. He was so unconscious to these facts. The ability to learn not to respond to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways not only of going beyond ego in yourself but also of dissolving the ego in others. I sincerely hope I was able to do that.
There are many subtle but easily overlooked forms of ego that you may not observe in yourselves and, more importantly in other people. The moment you become conscious of the ego in yourself, your relationship with others becomes developed, simple and less complicated. You also understand your true self.
“The recognition of the false is the arising desire for the real”
Have you ever had the chance of telling someone, something they don’t know yet? Let’s take for instance: you want to tell someone about something that happened. “Guess what? You don’t know yet? Let me tell you then”.
If you’re alert enough, present enough, you may be able to detect a momentary sense of satisfaction within yourself just before delivering the news, even if it’s bad news. It is as a result of the fact that for a brief moment there is, in the eyes of the ego, an imbalance in your favor between you and the other person. For that brief moment, you know more than the other.
That satisfaction you feel is the ego. You derive it from feeling a stronger sense of self-relative to the other person. It doesn’t matter if the person is the richest man in the world, the pope or a saint. At that moment you feel superior because you know more.
I’ve learned that one of the reasons people love to gossip or get addicted to gossip is partly for this reason. Gossiping often carries traces of malicious criticism and judgment of others whether we believe it or not. It not only spreads malicious criticism, but it also strengthens ego.
Ever wondered why whenever you meet someone who knows more, has more, or can do more, your ego feels threatened? It’s because of the feeling of ” less” loses it’s imagined sense of self to the other.
Many people are so completely identified with the voice in their head, the never-ending stream of involuntary and compulsive thinking and, all the emotions that come with it has made others to describe them as “full of themselves or being possessed by their mind.
As long as they are unaware of this, you take the thinker to be who you are. This is ego displaying its superiority. It’s called ego because there is a sense of self, of I, in every thought, every memory, every interpretation, every opinion, every viewpoint, every reaction, and emotion.
Many of us fluctuate between the feelings of inferiority and superiority, depending on situations or the people we come in contact with. All we need to know and observe in ourselves is this: Whenever we feel superior or inferior to anyone, that’s the ego in us speaking.
Blessings and Love
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