When it comes to forgetting those we love, there’s never a perfect time, I guess that’s the trick because when it comes to love, nothing is ever right. Let’s be real; winning back the love of your partner is never an easy job, especially when they don’t give you any closure. Everyone is worth fighting for and we all certainly deserve a second chance. But, if you’re going to fight to win back the love of your partner, then they must be willing to do the same for you. They must also be willing to take the bullet for you if push comes to shove.
Before you embark on the quest of winning your partners love back, you must first find out what went wrong. The ice perk that crashes the boat of every relationship is assumptions. Humans are quick to assume they know it all, especially women. Men are not wired that way.
Here are 5 ways to win back the love of your partner
- Reflect on what went wrong:
Like I earlier stated, assumptions in relationships aren’t always healthy. Give yourself some time to reflect on what may have gone wrong. You can’t make sound judgements with clouded minds and the quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life and of course, it also plays out in your relationships.
According to lovebondings.com on effective tips on how to win the love of your life back – ” Understanding the problems and what went wrong can help you devise a plan to get the person back in your life. The problems will crop up again if you do not understand and address them now. So, if it was your possessiveness that made him/her run for their life, then you need to figure out if you can change.”
Putting some space between you and your partner will help you be less bias and less emotional as you process your thoughts. It’s a well know fact that absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you want him back, then make him want you.
- Be honest with yourself:
I love how A Lust For Life (alustforlife.com) Explains the need to be honest with one’s self – ” Being honest with yourself is key to living your life to the full. Not only does it have a positive impact on yourself, but also to people around you. Being honest allows you to have a positive mindset even when life throws lemons at you, and instead of “running to the hills,” you gather up courage and face the problem by making “lemonade.”
Being honest with yourself is key to living life to the fullest”.
Ask yourself vital questions like; was I good to my partner? How attentive was I to his/her needs? Was I being a nagging partner? Did I judge him more than I encouraged and appreciated him? Did we have irreconcilable differences? Would I do things differently if my partner was to give me a second chance? Was I in control of the relationship and if yes, what am I willing to let go? Am I going through a phase now or is this who I truly am but don’t want to accept it? And until you get answers, don’t stop.
- Turn a new leaf:
Once you’ve been able to ask yourself the aforementioned questions and gotten the desired answers, then it’s time to turn a new leaf. Resist the urge to call your ex and show him/her that you’ve changed. An adage in Igbo land says, “A good market sells itself.” Action also speaks louder than words. Give the partner the chance to see the new you. Be consistent and in turn your partner will open up to you how he felt and feels towards you.
Make an effort not to repeat what you discovered was the reason for the break-up. Treat your partner with the love and attention they deserve, but don’t over do it. Play down your weaknesses and strengthen their strength. Don’t repeat your mistakes nor lose yourself in the process. You’ve come a long way in making yourself a better person. Don’t allow it to be all for nought.
- Pay less attention to what anyone says or think about you:
This is really important if you want to win your partner back. If you must exude confidence, then what others say shouldn’t be more important to you. People would always have something to say, how you react to it shows how matured you’ve become. Quit bending over backwards trying to impress anyone or you’ll lose sight of what’s truly important. Nothing attracts a man more than a woman that exudes confidence in all that she does and vice-versa.
- Take care of yourself: Loosing someone we love can be excruciating, overwhelming, depressing and emotional. It drains you of every energy and leaves you with painful memories that you can’t forget in a snap. Ladies, treat yourself to a nice time at the spa and pamper yourself good. Avoid toxic friends as you take out time for yourself and don’t allow negative energy around yourself. Be yourself.
“Life always has many things to bring you down. But, what can really bring you down is your attitude” – Winni Bai;
Give your life a new attitude.
You don’t need to feel you have to prove yourself to anyone. How you see yourself would help determine how he’s going to see you. It’s very easy to relapse into depression if you negate this advice.
Men, get a fun hair cut. Go biking or hiking with your best buds, but avoid pity party and gossips. Don’t discuss your relationship with your ex while hanging out with your friends. That time is for you and you alone.
If life gives you another shot with the ones you love, start fresh with them. Give yourselves the chance to be happy with the new person you’ve both become.
Blessings and Love 💕
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