Falling in love with the right person is beautiful but falling in love with the wrong person and for the wrong reasons is cruel and dangerous. Love is beautiful, kind, patient, never doubting, believing, it’s not about the touch down of friday night’s game, it’s not about being with the popular crowd, it’s not selfish, it’s not rude, it’s not conceited, it’s not hateful, it’s not proud, it’s not egoistic. But when we love or fall in love with the wrong person it becomes Vice-versa. It becomes a night mare. Like i always say “The power of love that God has given us is so strong that I have seen it tear down walls and flatten every mountain”. But when we love of our own strength we grow weary and love..becomes sour and hateful.
I have heard stories of the dark side of love. Love has a certain attraction to it that people can actually resistance. A woman saw a painless solution to all her problems in a man. She did not realize how harmful love could be when she was being seduced by this man and so jumped willingly into the relationship. Another aspect to consider is how this man falls in love with this woman to begin with. This young man only loves the woman because she is beautiful and not because she has a good and beautiful soul (of which this is the world we live in where people only love the body and not the soul). Shortly after that the woman has an accident that made her loose her facial beauty and that was the beginning of the end of the so called love. This demonstrates how love is an obstacle and dark. He was obviously affected by her beauty and purity but now begins to question every of his actions when he says, “Shall I, or not?”
This scenario is but a few of the many dark sides to love. Oftentimes we don’t realise how harmful some love can be until we’ve been hurt and very few survive the hurt. Love binds romantic partners together before sex and any other thing. The more we feel connected to the ones we love when we are in love, is the same way we feel disconnected from them when everything comes crashing down.
Hearing “I love you” from your loved ones is beautiful and gratifying but it becomes dangerous when they stop loving you and yet say i love you. They keep you bounded to lies, abuse you when they want to and blindfold you with fake love. They make you loose your voice and reduce you to nothing because they know you are still in love with them.
Just as love is beautiful, its dark side can never be overated. We need to study our prospective partner before we jump into any relationship. You never get to know until you are in. I know we can not tell our heart who to love but we sure can decide if we want that love or not when it becomes toxic. Love shouldn’t be endured, it should be enjoyed. Fall in love for the right reasons and when it becomes toxic and choking please walk away. Never belittle yourself all in the name of love, love is deserving and you surely you deserve to be loved by the right person and for the right reasons..